Saying goodbye to my best friend

By Tia Bedwell
Daily Herald News Staff
Published/Last Modified on Thursday, August 20, 2009 1:45 PM EDT

This week I had to make one of the hardest decisions of my life ... I put my dog to sleep.

Tia Bedwell | Daily Herald Kramer smiles up at me backstage during Lakeland Theatre Company’s production of “Annie.”



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He wasn’t just my dog, for 17 years he was my best friend. My best friend was always there for me and loved me unconditionally through thick and thin.

I still remember when he bounded up the hall of the Daily Herald as the Humane Society’s Pet of the Week. He was there to have his picture in hopes that as the week’s pet he would soon be adopted.

I took one look at him, picked him up and that was it — love.

He had so much personality for a dog ... he was nearly human. At that time I was a huge fan of “Seinfeld” and this puppy reminded me of a character on that show. He had crazy hair, bounded into rooms at full force and was just full of energy, so he became Kramer.

Kramer grew up with me in my first apartment. He cuddled with me on cold nights, ate my whole plate of spaghetti when I was in another room and small rocks when we were outside before I could stop him. He wasn’t always the most behaved dog, of course. I would come home and my apartment would look like a tornado went through it or I could hear him jumping off my bed when I turned the shower off so he hopefully wouldn’t get caught where he wasn’t suppose to be. I loved him even as I scolded him.

He was there for me when first my father died very suddenly from a stomach aneurism, and again two years later, when my mother was killed in an automobile accident. Animals know when you need love and attention and offer it freely without expecting anything in return.

He also stepped up and became the loveable “Sandy” in Lakeland Theatre Company’s production of “Annie.” You never knew what to expect from him during a show. He once even went into the audience during a school day matinee. Everyone was panicking and I calmly said don’t worry, he will be back (I was secretly praying he really would be) and he did of course. At the end of the show, everyone wanted to meet “Sandy” and he loved the attention. He licked up the children’s love like a doggie treat.

He has touched a lot of hearts through the years.

Recently, I began noticing he was having a harder time getting around and I knew I had to face the fact he was very old. I was lucky to even have him as long as I did.

For the last few weeks I have been struggling with what to do. I did not want to let my baby go, but if I had to, I hoped it would happen naturally. I tried my best to get him to take medicine and eat, but he was refusing and he had lost so much weight and when I had to put a diaper on him it broke my heart.

I had asked opinions of my friends and someone older and wiser told me, “Tia, you will know when the time is right ... you do not do it for yourself, you do it for your dog.” That made so much sense to me. I knew I would never be ready to let him go.

So, on Monday, Aug. 17, I looked into Kramer’s big brown eyes and knew it was time. As I drove to the vet, I knew what I was doing was best for him ... and I held on to that. I cradled his head in my arms and kissed him goodbye as he fell asleep forever. I wanted him to know and feel how much he meant to me as he left me.

I will never forget my best friend. I loved him so much.

I received a card in the mail from the vet, which I will treasure forever. On the front it said, “A pet is never truly forgotten until it is no longer remembered.” On the inside was an ink print from Kramer’s paw. My loveable mutt will never be forgotten.

Comments

    twalters wrote on Aug 28, 2009 11:23 AM:

    " Tia, what a beautiful story. I can relate so much with the best friend part. Your pets are there through good times and bad, never with judgements just the love for you. I can imagine Kramer in doggie heaven looking down and smiling at you now and so happy for you remembering him in such a special way. "

    lady c in L.A wrote on Aug 26, 2009 9:07 PM:

    " my hearts goes out to you for your lost. Your articles really touch my heart and i will keep you and your pet in my prayers. you did a really brave thing. May god bless you. "

    GladysfromJersey wrote on Aug 25, 2009 10:51 AM:

    " I have never owned a dog and i always said i never will, its not that i didn't like dogs, i didn't like the house stuff(them living in the house)but i always knew if i gave myself a chance that they would be the love of my life. this story today had really gave me a new outlook about pets the older I get I realize that they are really true friends. thank you for sharing your story because it has changed my prospective about animals. I do know that love is love regardless if its an animal or a human. I prayer that your memories of Kramer will always be with you. "

    david birdsong wrote on Aug 22, 2009 11:20 AM:

    " tia bedwell..i too understand..my sweet missie died four months ago..we were together 14years..she was my heart..i dreaded the day she would have to go and on april 12th she died..she came with me to mexico in a pickup with my knowing we could never return to the usa until she had departed..i loved her as much as anyone could love another soul..i saw missie get old and i knew her time was near..then one day she had to leave me but ten minutes before she did she kissed me goodbye..something she didnt do much but she knew it was time..i could not admit she was gone..the web site RAINBOW BRIDGE.helped me deal with my grief..now im living with two beautiful dogs but missie is in my heart forever.. "

    Ruby Misenhelder Faber wrote on Aug 21, 2009 3:09 PM:

    " Tia, Thank you for your story about Kramer. About 4 months ago I had to face the same thing. My dog was only 10yrs. old. I have not been able to grieve her until now. I was at work when my husband took her to the vets and any other time I felt like grieving her I always had something to do or had to go to work and didn't want to show up with swollen eyes. I am getting ready to purchase a puppy and really needed to let my dog go. Thanks to your story, I can now. "

    Paul wrote on Aug 21, 2009 2:50 PM:

    " I feel your pain. I too have been through that awful moment. You did what is best and right. Kramer was a lucky one also to have you. "

    Donna Pulley wrote on Aug 21, 2009 1:21 PM:

    " Just had to write in to you. I too had to put my "Millie" to sleep last July 2008. Hard decision, but I know what you had to go through. I since adopted another Cocker Spaniel from the Raleigh area. "Charley" has been such a good pal to have around. Get another, and love him/her even more!! "

    Elizabeth wrote on Aug 21, 2009 11:45 AM:

    " Oh, Tia. I so sympathize. I put my dog of nearly 13 years down two days after Christmas in 2008. She suddenly got sick (final stage of cancer we never knew she had), I took her to the vet, and the same day I was riding her to the Starbucks with me for the last time. Two hours later she was gone, fell asleep in my arms, and I am still heartbroken. Today she sits in my bedroom in a beautiful urn with her name in gold and her picture sitting and smiling right next to it. It does get easier, but each day I look at her collar on my rear-view mirror and I ache. God bless you in your time of sorrow. "

    SJW wrote on Aug 21, 2009 9:02 AM:

    " This story caught my attention because I had to put my dog to sleep a few years ago, and this was after my mother had put one to sleep that I grew up with as a child. I truly understand how you are feeling. It does get better with time, but it will never be the same without your best friend. I cried just reading your story because it reminded me of my own. My dog was like a child to me. I had received him during my first year of teaching. After college, I had been looking for a small dog and one of my students said that their mother was trying to get of their yorkie. He had even started letting him stay outside (in the winter) because they were getting tired of him. He was only three months old when I got him. I treated him like a human, he even acted human. When I would talk to him, he even would tilt his head back and forth to the side as if he really understood what I was saying. I would celebrate his birthday, and have a gift under the tree for him on Christmas. Through thick and thin, he was my best friend. I have pictures of him that I still cherish. I had to put him to sleep because he got sick and the vet told me that there was nothing else that he could do. He had stopped eating, stopped barking, and could hardly walk. I did not want to do it, but I could not see him suffer anymore. You did what was right for your dog, you put him first. Now, he is happy in dog heaven, smiling and looking down on you. :) "

    Sheryl wrote on Aug 21, 2009 6:00 AM:

    " I truly understand how you feel about your beloved animal. They so become your family. I had my little dog for 16 years. that little fellow went everywhere with my family and I. He was a very healthy dog until he was about 16 years of age. He started having breathing problems and as many times as i changed his medication. nothing seemed to work. I had to make the decision to have him put down. It was the right thing for him. But it was the hardest thing for me to do. I truly miss my little Oliver. I know your heart is broken and only time will heal that. You are in my thoughts and prayers as you go thru this difficult time. Please take care and also remember that Kramer is always there in spirt now. "

    Sue wrote on Aug 20, 2009 9:54 PM:

    " Tia, First, my condolences to you. I know how hard it is to put an animal to sleep. Second, thank you for sharing with us. It's nice to know that there are others who feel the same way about their pets. "

    Susan wrote on Aug 20, 2009 6:11 PM:

    " I will admit I am a major dog lover, but even if you weren't I couldn't help but love this goofy guy.. he just had a certain "style" about him . Just take a look at that face, and anyone can see he was one of a kind , just like his namesake! Very well said Tia. Not only were you lucky to have Kramer, he was lucky to have you. Kramer I hope you are up there sleeping on comfy beds and eating all the spaghetti your tummy can handle! "

    Sherry wrote on Aug 20, 2009 2:53 PM:

    " You wrote that beautifully. I know how it feels and am nearing that point again with our 15 1/2 yr old lab. Thanks for sharing your story. I follow on Twitter and enjoy news from the home area. "

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